Hello, fabulous!
Nobody warned us that one of the best parts of getting older would be the complete and total liberation from having to justify how we do things. I loooooove it!
I have systems. I have rules. I have opinions about ice and notification badges and what constitutes an acceptable time to still be in pajamas. Do they sound a little crazy? Maybe. But they make perfect sense to me and I have a feeling they might make perfect sense to you too.
Here are 13 habits that are completely, perfectly, unapologetically IDGAF-approved. I hope they make you laugh, make you feel seen, and remind you that you're not so crazy after all. Welcome to the era. 💖
1. ⏰ I will not get out of bed unless the clock ends in a 0 or 5.
6:47? Absolutely not. 6:50? Let’s go. This isn’t laziness. It’s structure. This is me giving myself a clean entry point into the day instead of stumbling out of bed at some random, meaningless number like 6:43. Who starts things at 6:43? Nobody organized, that’s who. The three minutes I spend waiting for a round number are three minutes of additional horizontal peace and I’m protecting them aggressively.
2. 🛍️ I will carry every single grocery bag in one trip or die trying.
The number of bags is irrelevant. The number of trips is always one. I have carried what can only be described as a full farmer’s market haul on two arms and three fingers while my keys were in my mouth and I felt GREAT about it. Retracing your steps is a choice and it’s not one I am making today or any day.
3. 🧊 Everything gets ice. Everything.
Water, obviously. If it’s Pellegrino, even better. But also: anything that can reasonably coexist with ice will be given ice. Juice. Malta. Day old coffee (yes, I said that). But truly, there is nothing more delicious than a super drink infused with tinkling ice cubes frolicking inside my cup between sips. Ahhhh…
4. 🩷 Pajamas until further notice.
If there is nowhere to be, the pajamas stay on. Past noon, into the afternoon, up to dinner time. Basically however long it takes. This is my house and I bought it specifically so I could be comfortable in it, and nothing says “I live here and I love it” like a great set of pajamas at 2pm on a Tuesday. I’m not lazy — I’m home.
5. 🪲 The insects live because karma.
Will I scream? Yes. Will I make Speed come deal with it? Absolutely. Will I then instruct him not to kill it because I believe in karma and I don’t know what that bug has going on in its life? Every single time. We have a whole system where I freak out until the bug gets escorted out safely but alive. It MUST stay alive. Speed has accepted this.
6. 🧼 My hand washing has categories.
Hair curl cream to mousse? Same universe, no wash required. Mousse to face moisturizer? Complete category change, full hand wash, no exceptions. This makes complete sense if you think about it for even thirty seconds and I truly believe everyone should be doing this.
7. ✅ If it’s not written down, it didn’t count.
Completed a task that wasn’t in my planner? I go back and write it in anyway just so I can cross it off. Some people find this a little insane. Those people don’t understand the dopamine situation or the importance of an accurate record. My planner is a document of what actually happened, not just what I planned, and crossing things off is a non-negotiable part of the experience. This is productivity AND joy.
8. 🔴 The notification badges are dealt with immediately.
I don’t know when this became a full-time job but here we are. Red circles on my apps make me twitchy in a way I can’t fully articulate, so I clear them. Constantly. All of them, all day long, omg there are so many! The emails, the texts, the apps — cleared. A clean screen is a calm mind and a calm mind gets things done. You can have my zero-badge home screen when you pry it from my cold, organized hands. Speed, on the other hand, has thousands. WHAT?!
9. 🧽 If it’s too hard to clean, I will not be buying it.
Doesn’t matter how beautiful it is or how much I love it. If maintaining it requires more than a reasonable amount of effort, it goes back on the shelf and we move on. And I’m lazy efficient, so reasonable does not have a high bar. Life is too short for high-maintenance surfaces. This rule has saved me from several very pretty mistakes and I’ll stand behind it F-O-R-E-V-E-R.
10. 🎨 My walls have holes in them and you’d never know.
When we bought the house it came with speakers and cameras mounted everywhere, so we hired an electrician to remove them which left holes in the wall. They warned us upfront they couldn't repair drywall, so no knock on them, but the drywall situation is…ongoing. In the meantime, I’ve placed art, trinkets, and various wall décor over every single one of them. Tbh, it actually looks pretty damn good. This is not a problem for me. This is interior design under pressure and I’m thriving.
11. 📺 We don’t have window coverings on the bay windows and the TV is 85 inches.
Our neighbors have never said anything. We have chosen to interpret this as a sign that everything is fine. The TV faces the street. The windows are large. Inevitably, in whatever we’re watching, there will be a scene that makes me very aware of this situation. We pause nothing. We cover nothing. We simply live with the choices we’ve made and trust that our neighbors are either very understanding or very entertained. Possibly both.
12. 🚪 No door, drawer, or closet may be open when I sleep.
This is not negotiable and it is not up for discussion. Open cabinet in the kitchen? I’m getting up. Closet door slightly ajar? Absolutely not. I don’t make the rules about chi — I just enforce them, nightly, before I can close my eyes. Speed knows this. The house knows this. Everything gets closed and then we sleep like civilized people. Try it once and tell me it doesn’t feel better. I’ll wait.
13. 👗 Dinner for $200 is no problem but a shirt better be under $50 and 100% cotton or I’m leaving.
The math does not math and I’m aware of this. I’ll order another round of cocktails without looking at the price but then stand in a shop seriously distressed that a blouse costs $78. Is it cotton? Will it make my stomach look big? Can I return it if I change my mind in 48 hours? Why does it cost the same as my water bill? I don’t have answers, people. I just need the tag to say 100% cotton and the price to feel like 1997 …and then we can talk.
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So that's my list! Something tells me yours is just as good, just as specific, and just as completely non-negotiable. Tell me one of your IDGAF habits in the comments so I can celebrate them with you too, or restack this on Notes. Ain’t no shame in the quirky game!
Figuring out exactly how you like things and then refusing to do them any other way is one of life’s greatest joys. Your quirks are not your flaws. They’re your fingerprint.
Revel in it.
💬 LET'S DISCUSS: What's one of your IDGAF habits?
I need to tatoo this on my hand: 🧽 If it’s too hard to clean, I will not be buying it.