đ How to Start Creating a Vision for Your Dream Life In 30 Minutes or Less
+ The January Popstar Kit: Your 30-minute permission slip to get what you actually want.
Hello, fabulous!
Our last newsletter was about my âoh shitâ moment and the very clear realization that there is no magical âlaterâ when everything aligns perfectly and you finally have time to chase your dreams. So today, I'm walking you through the three-step process that took me from "I should want this" to "I actually want THIS".
You'll learn how to identify your core values, shift from chasing goals to chasing feelings, and write your dream day in present tense so you can see what's already here and what you're ready to claim. Best of all, if youâre a Popstar or Headliner, you also get the very first January Popstar Kit today with tools to help you get it all done in 30 minutes or less! đ
So grab your coffee, get comfy, and let me walk you through exactly how I did this so you can do it too. â
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How Iâm Approaching 2026 Differently
Hereâs the thing about January: weâre all supposed to have these big, ambitious goals figured out by January 1st, right? New year, new you, all that pressure. But what if instead of goals that stress you out, you just got really clear on what your actual dream life looks like?
I shared recently that Iâm not doing resolutions this yearâinstead, Iâm living 2026 according to 7 core values that actually matter to me. To be honest, that shift from âwhat should I accomplishâ to âhow do I want to FEEL and LIVEâ has been E-VER-Y-THING.
Thatâs what January is about for me. Not hustling harder or overhauling everythingâjust getting crystal clear on what I actually want so I can start building toward it without the burnout. I spent too many years doing things I wasnât passionate about to waste another second not pursuing my best life.
To that end, I just completed the Camille Styles Vision Board Workshop, and it was soooo good! I looooove goals, visualization, writing things down⌠but a truly inspiring vision board has always escaped me. I get overwhelmed and just never finish it. This time was different, though. Camille, being the amazing guide that she is, broke it down in a way that finally made sense to me.
During her workshop, she had us do an exercise where you describe your ideal day in detail. Like, MINUTE detailânot just what youâre doing, but how youâre feeling too. And suddenly, my soft reset had a north star. Yesssss!
Iâll be working on my actual vision board throughout January, and Iâll share it with you in a future newsletter. But for now, here are the three steps I used to get started and actually complete my âA Day in My Dream Lifeâ vision.
Popstars & Headliners: Your January Kit walks you through how to identify your core values, shift from chasing goals to chasing feelings, and write your dream day in present tenseâmore on that at the end of the newsletter!
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Iâm going to be totally real with you: I did Camilleâs workshop, wrote out my dream day in ridiculous detail, and then immediately flew to Puerto Rico for five days.
And you know what I did the entire trip? Thought about my to-do list. Sigh.
We were literally IN my dream scenarioâtropical location, quality time with Speed, beautiful weather, adventure, all of it. And I spent half the time thinking about what I âshouldâ be doing back home instead of just... being there.
And hereâs another confessionâŚIâve been living in my dream house like Iâm still waiting for the landlord to approve my paint colors.
We BOUGHT this place. Pool, palm trees, the whole Florida fantasy. And yet every time I think about what I actually want my life to look like, I catch myself thinking, âMaybe later. Once things settle. When Iâm more prepared.â
Prepared for WHAT? I own the house. Weâre not moving. WHAT AM I ACTUALLY WAITING FOR???
This was me, once again, playing it safeâugh! Keeping my dreams just vague enough that I couldnât mess them up. Small enough that I couldnât regret them. Because if I didnât fully name what I wanted, I didnât have to risk choosing wrong.
It felt responsible. It was actually fear.
So I stopped and asked myself the uncomfortable question: âWhatâs is the obstacle here?â And the answer surprised me.
It was permission.
Permission to actually ENJOY the life Iâm building instead of constantly thinking about whatâs next, treating it like a waiting room for something better. Permission to want things loudly, specifically and unapologetically.
Which, frankly, totally surprised me. Because if you know me, you know restraint is NOT on the friendship menu. Iâm the first to say âWhy choose? Do both!â âBook the trip!â âWhy not now?ââŚindulging is literally my default setting.
But Iâve also been living with something my sister told me after our brother died in 2023, and itâs shaping so much of how I see my midlife. We were talking about Mami and how different her decision-making process is from ours. And my sisterâwho is nine years younger than me but sometimes so much wiserâsaid:
âYou have to understand that Mami has always been in survival mode. Sheâs had to survive so much so thatâs what she bases her choices on: what is the safest thing?â
And it hit me like a freaking brick.
My mom is my hero - sheâs persevered through so much hardship with grace, optimism, and joy and created a peaceful life for herself that she totally deserves. It makes sense that she operates that way. But even though my adult life looks nothing like hers did, I realized⌠I do that too.
I plan for the worst case scenarios. I base big decisions on how to avoid disaster, not how to build the best possible outcome. And while thatâs kept me safe and successful⌠itâs also kept me just far enough away from making my biggest dreams come true.
Sometimes I seek permission when no oneâs stopping me, or crave validation of my ideas when I just need to jump in already. Paralysis by analysis and FOMO are constants in my life that take huge effort to work through and Iâve always wondered why. Now I know! Eldest daughter syndrome. Itâs a whole vibe, yâall.
Once I had that âahaâ moment, though, I finally had something to work with and everything started to click. I wasnât missing strategyâI was missing permission. And I reminded myself that I was allowed to imagine the best case scenario too.
đ¤ So before we move on to the next three steps, I want to say this LOUD and CLEAR:
đ You already have permission.
đ You're allowed to want what you want.
đ Even if it feels messy or unclear or too bold.
đ Even if youâre scared.
Whatever that quiet little craving is thatâs been whispering naughty or nice things to you lately? Youâre allowed to follow it. Full stop.
Keep that in the back of your mind as we go through the rest together.
